Oh, the love. The question “how long is my relationship going to last?” is a natural one to ask, regardless of whether you are in the stage of infatuation, or if you are a newlywed or experiencing some difficulties in your marriage. I’ve been working with a lot of couples recently, some of whom are in relatively young relationships while others have been together for decades. As I go further into the matter to see what’s driving this ongoing questioning, the first thing that comes to me is fear. Fears that are often voiced include the following: “I’m frightened it won’t work out, and I’m not even sure how to make a relationship function as it should.” We are now experiencing these issues, and I am unsure as to whether or not this individual is the perfect one for me. Wouldn’t it be the case that if it were the appropriate person for me, I would be able to physically feel and know it? There is a good chance that your mind is trying to figure out the likelihood that this investment will result in a return over the course of a longer period of time if you are experiencing these anxieties. What do you think? You are never going to know. Have you been taken aback? Have you been anticipating a list of relationship advice that will help you estimate how long you will be together? I am unable to provide you with that, despite the fact that I have been a relationship architect for the last 21 years. You can never be sure that the person you are now with is going to be the person you will spend the rest of your life with. It is your mind running off into the future, wanting to be able to “game the table,” if you believe that you are able to actually judge it, or that there are relationship tips out there that are going to assist you achieve that. The question “how long should my relationship last?” is one that I feel should be asked by everybody. as well as delving further into topics such as: • How simple is it for me to spend the majority of my time with this individual? • How does it feel to be able to be myself? • To what extent do I feel that I am free to be genuine and vulnerable? This is something that is equally important whether you are in the process of finding a new spouse, whether you are in a fresh relationship, or if you have been married for a very long time. If you want your relationship to be successful, you need to establish a level of freedom that allows you to bring all that you are to the table, even the things that you are reluctant to discuss. Take away the pressure that your relationship has to survive till the day you die if you are having fun, if you have chemistry with the other person, and if you just love being with them. This will give your relationship an even higher chance of succeeding. Despite the fact that it does not diminish your commitment, it does diminish some of the terror that you are experiencing. Geoff Laughton is my name. My goal is to assist couples in developing, constructing, and sustaining the relationship of their dreams with themselves and the person they love the most. This might involve their connection with themselves, but it can also encompass their relationship with their spouse and their lives! In order to assist individuals who are experiencing feelings of being trapped in patterns that they may not fully understand and that are holding them and their relationship at any degree of stagnancy, I provide assistance. Whether it’s a loss of passion, sex, inspiration, or connection, when they complete the work with me, they are re-engaged and back to being extremely excited about what they’re doing. Their romantic relationships are getting back to full bloom, they are experiencing a surge of creative inspiration, and they are completely engrossed in life. And, in all honesty, isn’t that really what we all want?